Have you ever thought about how many what-ifs that you might be holding on to? There are what-ifs in our closets, “What if I lose 10lbs, then I can wear those clothes again?’. There are what-ifs in our garages, “What if I need a birdhouse lamp?”. There are what-ifs in our pantries, cabinets, storage units and there are what-ifs in our spirits, heart, minds, bodies, and relationships. Have you ever thought how what-ifs don’t really give us options or create opportunities to grow but keep us living in the past, unable to face the truth or set us free to live with open hearts, open minds, open spirits and open hands in the present? Could it be that all our what-ifs are not only wasting space, time, money, and energy but keeping us from living in a natural rhythm and flow to give and receive the love and truth we need to become our best selves?
I feel paralyzed by what-ifs. My closet is full of clothes that I haven’t worn in years and things in my garage now have 3 years of dust but what’s really holding me down are the what-ifs of my life, “What-if I had just stayed married, What-if I had spent more time with kids, What-if I had done more, done less or done something different”. What-ifs are at the root of my anxiety, fears, guilt and shame, and they rob me of everything I need to experience and enjoy my life right here and right now. They keep me hoarding things that will never produce peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. What-ifs keep me looking back, not trusting in the process of life or believing in the mystery and power of something greater than me. My what-ifs judge me and keep me perpetually looking back believing that I could have completely and perfectly controlled not only my life but the thoughts, feelings, and actions of others.
What-ifs do not motivate us and they cannot create change. They can only clutter our present opportunities to live, love, dream, risk, grow and flourish; and live how we are designed.
It’s time to clean out the what-ifs. It’s time to be set free from guilt, shame, pain, and fear and be set free to receive forgiveness, mercy, truth, and love. We cannot live with what-ifs because they distract, clutter and prevent us from living right here and right now. How do we clean out the what-ifs? We can start by telling the truth about them and asking ourselves questions about what we need to live today. Are we holding onto to crumbs of the past? Are we scared to clear out anger, guilt, shame, and pain and create the space for vulnerability, uncertainty, and mystery? Will we trust the process of letting go to open the pathways to give and receive love, truth, hope, and joy? Today, I encourage you to clean out every space that keeps you hoarding the crumbs of what-if and open your heart, mind, spirit and hands to the gifts that are being given today to fill you up with love, beauty, strength, care and nourishment.