Be Basic and just walk

IMG_1387.PNGWalking is enough! It is the perfect exercise to nourish your body and help support your musculoskeletal system, circulatory system, digestive system, endocrine system, integumentary system, urinary system, lymphatic system, immune system, respiratory system, nervous system and reproductive system.
We don’t have to do something crazy, extreme, spend lots of money or lots of extra time working out to give our bodies the things they need to do their jobs. We are designed to nourish ourselves with basic things and to practice nourishing ourselves every day. If you want extremely amazing results, then you have to return to being basic.

The Call of the Wild

by Robert William Service
Have you gazed on naked grandeur where there’s nothing else to gaze on,
Set pieces and drop-curtain scenes galore,
Big mountains heaved to heaven, which the blinding sunsets blazon,
Black canyons where the rapids rip and roar?
Have you swept the visioned valley with the green stream streaking through it,
Searched the Vastness for a something you have lost?
Have you strung your soul to silence? Then for God’s sake go and do it;
Hear the challenge, learn the lesson, pay the cost.

Have you wandered in the wilderness, the sagebrush desolation,
The bunch-grass levels where the cattle graze?
Have you whistled bits of rag-time at the end of all creation,
And learned to know the desert’s little ways?
Have you camped upon the foothills, have you galloped o’er the ranges,
Have you roamed the arid sun-lands through and through?
Have you chummed up with the mesa? Do you know its moods and changes?
Then listen to the Wild — it’s calling you.

Have you known the Great White Silence, not a snow-gemmed twig aquiver?
(Eternal truths that shame our soothing lies.)
Have you broken trail on snowshoes? mushed your huskies up the river,
Dared the unknown, led the way, and clutched the prize?
Have you marked the map’s void spaces, mingled with the mongrel races,
Felt the savage strength of brute in every thew?
And though grim as hell the worst is, can you round it off with curses?
Then hearken to the Wild — it’s wanting you.

Have you suffered, starved and triumphed, groveled down, yet grasped at glory,
Grown bigger in the bigness of the whole?
“Done things” just for the doing, letting babblers tell the story,
Seeing through the nice veneer the naked soul?
Have you seen God in His splendors, heard the text that nature renders?
(You’ll never hear it in the family pew.)
The simple things, the true things, the silent men who do things —
Then listen to the Wild — it’s calling you.

They have cradled you in custom, they have primed you with their preaching,
They have soaked you in convention through and through;
They have put you in a showcase; you’re a credit to their teaching —
But can’t you hear the Wild? — it’s calling you.
Let us probe the silent places, let us seek what luck betide us;
Let us journey to a lonely land I know.
There’s a whisper on the night-wind, there’s a star agleam to guide us,
And the Wild is calling, calling . . . let us go.

The Alchemy of Human Design: You are a gift

IMG_1158.JPGWho are you? You are a gift. You are a beautiful, amazing and unique gift given to this world. There is something completely different about you that allows divine love to shine through you and be a light to the world.
Who are you? You are loved. No one gives a gift that they love to someone they do not love. The designer of this world loved the world so much that you were given to help this world and all of us in it to experience more truth, more love, more hope, more joy and more beauty.
If you are alive, then you are loved, you are a gift and you are not alone. When you know who you are, then feelings, thought, beliefs, actions and opinions lose the power to tell you who you are. When you are alone, that just means no one you see is around, but that doesn’t mean that you are not surrounded by love, truth, beauty, hope, mystery, joy and life. In love, you will never be alone and loneliness will never be more than a feeling that reminds you of that truth. Never let anyone take this truth. Fight like hell every day to remember that you are loved and love will never leave or forsake you.
We are all vulnerable, sensitive, fragile, needy, insecure, transparent, desperate and dependent on divine love to protect and provide for our deepest needs. This is a beautiful and amazing design that will also help us to live very rich and full lives with ourselves and others that cannot be measured, scored, calculated or put into a bank account. Do all you can to love yourself and others well and live as honestly as you can. Tell the truth to yourself and others and give love chance to transform you, your relationships and your world.

Truth is the only place love can grow, and trust will never happen without love and truth. I encourage you to create safe spaces for others to be known and accepted. There are so many that we can love and let divine love flow through us to free them from their false-selves and fill their spirits full of love.
Life is messy. Truth is hard. Love can seem impossible but this is life and this is living as we are designed to fight the good fight to enter into the mess, to tell the truth when it seems impossible and to love like it’s the only hope you have. When you can do this with yourself, then you can do it anywhere. Love is the beginning, the middle and end. It will not be stopped until it has spread through all of us. Join the movement to be loved and love. Now that the first thing we are designed for has been taken care of and you are loved, it is time to discover the unique, amazing and creative ways you are designed to share the love inside of you
When our spirits are full of love, then our hearts are free to feel, our minds are free to ask question, our bodies are free to look for nourishment in all of life’s gifts and we will freely move to give out time, talents and truths to others.

excerpt from The Alchemy of Human Design available on Amazon

Your health affects me

Your health doesn’t just affect you, it affects your family, your friends, your neighbor, your community and your world.
We are in real health crisis not just in Knoxville, TN but all over our country because 1) healthcare is not about healthcare, it’s about money 2) the medically trained experts are absolutely not experts in preventing and reversing sickness and disease 3) the self- proclaimed “experts” are clearly in the business of making money and have no idea how we are designed NOT to use diets, formulas or programs to control our spirits, hearts, minds and bodies 4) we refuse to take responsibility for own health and had rather be spoon fed crumbs and justify the ways we refuse to love and care for ourselves.

Where I live, we are now in the top 10 cities in the country for obesity and yet it is not addressed by leaders in the government or health community. We have diet-related sickness and disease skyrocketing in children and adults and insurance companies that refuse to offer services in our area but we continue to remain silent on an issue that is the number one killer.
We are encouraged to consume and we consume without any thought to the impact to ourselves or others, and we joke about the number one way we are destroying ourselves and community.

Your health is not a joke. Your life matters. We all need you. Your family needs you. You need you to give your body what it needs to do as it’s designed to fight, prevent and reverse disease, sickness, and weight-related illness.
Together we can do this.

Chef’s Table: Food for the heart

I love stories. I try to be very careful with what kind of things that I expose myself to because I know me and I know that junk (food, TV shows, information and experiences) do not satisfy my design. In fact, it usually hurts me my spirit, heart, mind, body and relationships. Remember there’s absolutely nothing that is neutral. Everything affects us.
I say all this to recommend Chef’s Table on Netflix because of the experience, strength and hope shared. I promise, if you’re like me and you are constantly searching for things that are good, beautiful and true to encourage your heart and strengthen your faith, then this series will help you remember how you are designed to VIVE.

Nourish your hope and dreams with the truth.

Sex is a gift

(excerpt from The Alchemy of Human Design)

Let’s Talk About Sex

Is sex a basic need? Can you physically survive without sex? Sex is not a need; it is a gift that nourishes two people in a relationship. It is a basic nutrient—just like sharing our feelings, thoughts, dreams, passions, desires, hurts, weaknesses, time, hopes, joy, truth, and love—when we are in a relationship where we are sharing our whole-person. This is called intimacy.

Intimacy is the result of being known and accepted (sharing our whole-selves), which implies there is a relationship built on honesty and love. Intimacy can and should happen with friends. Friendship involves two whole-people who know who they are and how they are designed and are moving to give their truth, time, and talents to love and encourage each other. Intimacy is being known and accepted physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and relationally. Intimacy can be reflected in sex, but sex DOES NOT create intimacy.

When two people have this connection and this intimacy, sex will be a gift that nourishes both people physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally. It will be a gift that moves their knowing and accepting of each other to a deeper level where bodies are shared, and there is deeper whole-person exposure and opportunity to be nourished. Sex can nourish an existing relationship at deep levels. However, sex cannot create connection, intimacy, or a real relationship. Having sex without these things will reduce sex to a physical high that we can easily become addicted to and want more and more of to fill the emptiness in ourselves and fill the gaps in an unhealthy relationship.

When sex is something we are using to get love, tell us who we are, change a feeling, distract our minds, and curb a physical craving, we get the exposure that sex guarantees and none of the nourishment. Sex then encourages “bad feeling” feelings, and it leaves us feeling even more empty after the high wears off. If sex makes us feel guilt, shame, pain or incites fear, then sex is not a gift and it is not being given and received as the amazing gift it was designed to be—and in the relationship it was designed to be given in. A relationship built on sex does not last. Sex in the place of love is rejection of the true-self.

When we are full of divine love, sex will be a reflection of that fullness. When the false-self tries to use sex to fill itself up to feel love, there will never be enough sex to fill the emptiness and enough amazing sex to feel good all the time. Sex will always reflect whether we are moving to give ourselves out of fullness or moving to consume out of emptiness. Unfortunately, sex has become too important in relationships and completely not important in relationships. Sex is not the most important, and it definitely is not unimportant. It’s a place that two people create to connect on every level and nourish an already deep level of intimacy.

Sex by yourself cannot nourish the parts of you that sex was designed to nourish. Porn and online sex is a false-self transaction that requires nothing true; it is a transaction. It is about consumption. It’s like junk food. You get a quick high; it satisfies a temporary craving, but it leaves you hungry for more.

You are not designed to be defined by sex, a lack of sex, or a type of sex but by love. We are not in a relationship with sex, just like we are not in a relationship with food. Neither food nor sex can love you back. We are in a relationship with people where we can both share and enjoy gifts like food and sex. What we do can never be who we are. Sex is a gift that we give and receive when we are present—mind, body, heart, and spirit. It is a special gift that we give and receive to help us remember the gifts that we already have like love, truth, trust, and connection. Sex can be a gift that helps us remember who we are. We are loved. Don’t let sex or the lack of sex tell you who you are.

Sex is important in a healthy relationship. It reminds us that we are both vulnerable, sensitive, transparent, fragile, needy, desperate, and dependent on love and whether that love is flowing through each other. When we are full of love, we will want to share all of ourselves, our hearts, minds, spirits, and bodies with each other and nourish our relationships. When we are full of divine love, we will naturally develop a rhythm and flow in our relationship that includes a healthy sex life.

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Give-Up trying to lose weight with diets and exercise

IMG_1133.JPGWho doesn’t want to lose weight, look better, feel better move better?
Who doesn’t feel overwhelmed and confused by the overload of diet and exercise information available today?
Are you tired of the latest and greatest body transformation programs?
Can you really change your life by changing your body?
Are you tired of dieting yet?
Should you really have to kill yourself with exercise to lose weight?

OF COURSE, we all want to lose weight. I haven’t met one person who doesn’t want to look, feel and move better.
Yes! There is so much information being dumped on you that you should feel confused and overwhelmed.
Seriously, I don’t think you want your life to be one endless body transformation program, diet or to do list.
Yes, you should be tired of dieting because dieting does not work physically, mentally or emotionally.
The biggest lie being manufactured is “You eat and exercise to lose weight”. On top of that lie/philosophy, an entire industry has built a billion dollar industry that sells you the most extreme, most insane, greatest, hottest, fastest and most intense diet and workouts programs.

Not only are most diets unsustainable for life, but the moment you go on a “diet” to deprive and restrict yourself, your brain kicks in to protect yourself from yourself. It will somehow, somewhere and someway makeup for you depriving yourself. Dieting does not work because there is a mental, emotional and physical response to being deprived and even “feeling” deprived.

Your body is naturally trying to establish a rhythm and flow that brings balance and healing. You can definitely try to deprive yourself and force yourself into a weight loss program but you should know, ” For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction”. Your body listens. It listens to itself and what the mind and heart are saying. You are (physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually  and relationally) designed to counterbalance any restriction or deprivation.

Bottom line, unless your name is Michael Phelps and you swim many many hours a day, seven days a week then EXERCISE will not be your means for weight loss. In fact, exercise (even for Michael Phelps) isn’t about weight loss at all.

Exercise should strengthen movement and whole-person connection. It should encourage growth, development and optimal function of your body that will enable you to enjoy YOUR life and YOUR activities.

Not only is your body meant to be free from rules and restrictions, but your spirit, mind and heart are fighters for freedom too. Your body wasn’t designed to tell your heart, mind, spirt what to think or how feel. Instead, your body reflects whether a person is healthy and well nourished as a whole-person.

You can Give-UP exercising to lose weight, it doesn’t happen unless you’re fully nourished. You can GIVE-UP dieting because it isn’t how you are designed.
You can Give-Up telling your body what to do and start listening to your body.
You can help supply your body with the nourishment it needs to do millions of jobs and quit getting into your body’s way of doing what it does naturally. Your bodies biggest enemy or biggest ally is you.

Give your body what it needs to do it’s job and function how it is designed.
You can do this, you can Give-Up fighting against your design and GIVE-IN to caring for your design to look and feel your best.