Aren’t we tired of being diagnosed? How many times have we been diagnosed in order for someone to deliver us with their programs and formulas that are guaranteed to fix us, change us, help us and save us… if only they can control us to buy whatever they are selling? You are fat, here is a diet. You need six pack abs, here is a workout. You need peace, here is a meditation app. You are depressed, here is some medication. A diagnosis tells us what’s wrong with us, that we need to be delivered and who can deliver us.
Every day we are being diagnosed and every day we are being offered thousands of delivery programs and formulas that promise the perfect body, the perfect health, the perfect stress level, the perfect home, the perfect kids, the perfect marriage, the perfect skin, the perfect closet, the perfect vacation and ultimately the perfect life. Given the availability and “proven results” of all these delivery programs, how many people have achieved the perfect life or when having completed the delivery program was FINALLY delivered from doing the delivery program again?
Do, why don’t most delivery programs work to deliver us? Perhaps it’s time to turn the tables and diagnose the delivery programs.
The diagnosis is delivery programs usually don’t deliver because:
- They usually get the diagnosis wrong.
- They try to deliver you through one part of yourself.
- They try to deliver you from the outside in
- They are based on you being fragmented and living a fragmented life.
- You aren’t designed to be delivered by a delivery program.
First, delivery programs diagnosis is usually wrong. The problems that we can easily see are usually not the real problems. The most obvious issues are usually a result of the real problem. Stress, injury, pain, tiredness, weight issues, food issues, addictions and relationship problems are all “results” of much deeper issues. So, no matter what we do to change the results that we clearly see, the real problem that is causing those results is still there. You can’t change food issues by changing the food. If your using food as a means to an end (meaning if you are using food to get a result like lose weight, change your feelings, give you an identity or get love), then it doesn’t matter what I tell you to eat, you’ll continue to misuse food and you’ll never be free or delivered to just enjoy food for the gift that food is designed to be.
Second, programs that reduce you to a part of yourself, like a body, a mind, a spirit, a heart can only deliver that part of you for a short period of time. Maybe you can get some control over your body by denying it, maybe you’ll take control over your emotions by avoiding them, maybe you’ll get control over those thoughts by distracting yourself with something else and maybe you’ll get control of your soul through religious practice. But… how long does that control last? How many diets led have led to lasting joy? How many self-help courses have given you the control over your life and resulted in lasting success, happiness, and self-esteem?
When you spend all your time and energy trying to deliver yourself through one part of yourself, you are also forcing parts of yourself to stop functioning as they are designed. If you were successful to deliver yourself through one part of yourself, then chances are that you would continue to deny the other parts of yourself. If you could get everything you wanted like peace, love, joy, success, and control through your body, then you would never get to know your heart, mind, and spirit. If you were able to deliver yourself through your spirit or mind, then you would just continue to ignore the needs of your heart and body. Look around, how many religious people do you know who are physically unhealthy.
Third, delivery programs fail again and again because they are trying to deliver from the outside in. They give you solutions, formulas and ideas to manage (control) your external issues. 13 steps to manage your stress, 7 steps to manage your weight, 5 steps to manage your relationships and thousands of other ways to manage your kids, spouses, workplace, home, pets, clutter, car, health, emotions, spirit and on and on and on. Control and manipulation have never worked to transform spirits, hearts, minds and the parts of us that determine our external lives.
Fourth, these programs are based on us living a fragmented life and being fragmented people where our minds, hearts, spirits, bodies, and relationships are operating independently from one another. A workout does not need your heart, mind or spirit. Work doesn’t need your heart, spirit or body. Social media only needs a pic, post or 140 characters but definitely not too much of you and certainly not all of you. All things ask you to reduce yourself to what is acceptable to someone else. If you obey, then you may think you are accepted but when someone asks you to reduce yourself, you have already been rejected.
Programs can work to get temporary results BUT if you every time you have to check a part of you at the door to make the program work, it is not sustainable. You have a built-in rebellion button and trust me your heart is pushing it every time your told “it doesn’t matter what you feel, just obey” and your mind is pushing it every time you try to cram some nonsense down your throat like “pain is weakness leaving the body”. Your spirit is pushing the rebellion button every time you’re told that “You’ll get love if you change, obey, get better, do more and try harder”. Last but not least, your body is pushing the button every time you take control to use it as means to an end.
Your whole person (mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually and relationally) is designed to come together to create its own balance, flow and rhythm, so you can experience and enjoy life. As long as you are trying to manage and control every aspect of your life, there’s absolutely no way you can enjoy yourself and your life, or experience how it naturally and mysteriously comes together in alchemy to be a place love, truth, hope, joy, faith, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness and self-control.
So what’s the real diagnosis? I don’t believe you have to be a rocket scientist to see we have been trying to deliver ourselves for a long time and we are more exhausted, neurotic, overweight, obsessed, stressed, unhappy, lonely and BUSIER than we have ever been. Maybe our lives and even our bodies appear very managed and under control, but inside we are numb, sad, angry, insecure, lonely, anxious and tired. We are bingers and yet we are never full. We consume at the highest levels but it’s never enough. We have tried to manage our entire lives and I think we have started looking back wishing we could do it again and CTFO and just enjoy our lives, ourselves, our families, our work and our time of being alive.
Food, stress, kids, anxiety, spouses, homes, cars, power, fame, work, money, exercise and things are not the problems and are not the solutions. It’s time to discover how you are designed and how you can live life and enjoy it as a whole-person in the present moment with hope, trust, peace, joy, and love. There’s no delivery system, there’s just life and life was meant to be lived with the ups and downs, the good and bad, the challenges and successes as a whole-person feeling, thinking, moving and relating as it was designed.
The real problem is not delivery systems, it’s we have forgotten how we are designed to not need delivery programs or formulas to be human and live. It’s time to rediscover how we are designed to breathe, listen, ask, look and move to nourish ourselves. You are invited to GIVE-UP using delivery programs to get control over things you can never get control over. You are invited to Give-Up trying to control life and just live it, one crazy full day at a time.